Three Different Shades of Love 0 4956

We embrace our love with our heart and mind, not our eyes and we fall in love with only these three shades of people in our life time. Each time we fall in love for a different reason and it has different definition and expression for love.

Three different shades of love will help you to connect to the relationship that you have in your life, letting you understand that love comes in different shades of color.

First Shade: Attraction

Love is never immature even if it happens at a tender age for the first time or even in high school. At the young age, they are fearless, they live with less fear and more love.

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The first shade of love is special and opens our heart because it is the most innocent and pure form and it defines us and the perception of the love. It makes you smile when you are having your worst day. This type of love fulfills our dreams from our youth and our ideas of what we expect love to look like. It also fulfils the need of the society’s expectation. Sometimes it doesn't turn out like you want it to be, but in the end it will all be okay and it never dies. This love keeps us alive and it encourages us to keep moving forward. It is one of the most important experiences in our lives from holding hands to that awkward exciting kiss; everything is a magical moment, just like a fairy tale. But, not to fall in trap of idealising about the first shade which may distort the idea of how actually true love should look like.

All of us were kids once, so we all know, what it’s like? One day we will be telling our own kids about our first love.

Second Shade: Falling in love

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The next shade, the second is the hard love. This shade of love teaches us the tough lessons of falling in love. In this love, we believe we are doing things differently, but we are not. In reality, we hang on and are making choices out of the needs to learn lessons.  However, here we grow, feel the pain and realize what we need out of this love shade. The issue in this shade is we believe over and over again that it comes to an end and different this time. But there can be lots of drama because of the manipulation, emotion, mental and physical abuse.

Love Hard or Hard Love?

This kind of overwhelming love is unstable; it has to be an expression of your being, rather than overwhelmed emotions. As we grow older, fear grows stronger with the emotions. But love is not the part of the emotions. It doesn’t behave the way emotions do. Real love is in a category of its own. Everyone’s got their own emotions. Don’t we? But ‘overwhelmingness’ of feeling, hate, anger or anything will lose your heart in it and it leaves you behind in loneliness and in sorrow.

Heart Break always hurts and it’s ok to walk away:

It reshapes your understanding of love. It hurts a lot, gets in deep trouble and nothing can change that. There is no point in fighting with the non existential. It is like fighting with the fear of darkness.

We would come to the acceptance that nothing last forever. But time, situations and people all change. All we need to do is to accept the reality, move forward and figure a way out.

“They do not love that do not show their love. The course of true love never did run smooth. Love is a familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but love.” – William Shakespeare

This teaches us to realize who we are and what we want in life and the difference between the love and the ‘idea’ of love.

Third Shade: Unconditional love

In this shade of love, we can’t explain the connection and we never see it coming; there won’t be any difficult compromise, it just fits well. This love surprises and breaks the ideas of love and what it should be like. It won’t be as hard as the previous shade. This love is uncomplicated and both could solve whatever problem comes around because both love each other and want to be together indefinitely. This powerful feeling is a commitment and it happens to the lucky ones. It happens when you accept other person’s flaws as much as their strengths. And, it is real and it lasts forever with unconditional love.

Real love allows you to be who you really are:

Finally, you will be able to understand the meaning of true love is tremendous insight, clarity, sensitivity and awareness.

This shade of love reveals us that what love is. This teaches you that love isn’t something you find, it’s something you develop. Love is like a plant, they need to be nurtured and watered to grow and to develop or over time they lose their lustre!

You can love others as much as you love yourself:

In the inner journey of our love life, the more you give, the more you have; the less you give, the less you have.

No matter, in which shade of love you are. In each shade, you can learn something and it gives you the opportunity to find the perfect one.

Don’t worry; if you had an only one love in your lifetime, two hearts are meant for each other and, you are not required to have multiple loves with three different persons.

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Deserved to be love the way you love:

The ones who didn’t find the final love and feel like giving up after constant heartbreak and disappointment, keep trying and keep giving love “one more go”.

You’ll have to learn the art of losing, choosing and refusing to win what we call THE GAME OF LIFE.
– Noor_Unnahar

We don’t have to be a love expert / relationship scientists or psychologist, the only qualification that we needed when it comes to love is to change what’s happening inside of you. Start believing in yourself to the highest potential and you will create unconditional love with your partner unbelievably fulfilling. In order to find the true love with another person, you have to love yourself and promise to them that you will be there forever. Make this as a challenge, it will totally change your experience in your relationship. So, when you find the third shade of unconditional love and you choose each other, this is the love everyone deserves. Enjoy your own journey and your love story.

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A dream is truer than real life. 0 2606

My head was heavy and it was hurting like crazy. I woke up crying having no idea of what had just happened. I thought about my dream and began to recall each and every event.

So as I drifted off to my sleep an empty dark room began to appear. As I fell deeper into the dream the room became darker and darker and I couldn’t see anything. Suddenly I was stuck in an unknown place all alone where even though I screamed nobody responded and my voice just echoed back to me. I started to walk and I bumped into something. When I touched it, it felt like a chair. So I decided I’d sit down. As I sat down I fell.

I was falling. Tumbling. Dwindling.

God knows what was happening

I was falling through something which seemed like a never ending tunnel.

Gradually the tunnel ended and I fell right on my buttocks. As I looked around, I realized I couldn’t recognize the place.

I walked around trying to find out clues of where I was, but every road, every shop all of it was nameless. I ambled around aimlessly. Gradually I began to feel alone, a feeling which I never had. I was always surrounded by people and now I can’t seem to find a single human being. As time flew by I began to feel hungry so I entered a shop and I realized that the food was available at no cost. I love food and I ate until my stomach was about to explode.

I saw a beggar asking for food,and I could not help him. I felt bad but i also realized that even i don't have anything for myself. As I don't know what to do next, I just started a conversation with him.

I asked him, "Who are you,How did you come to this place?". With a smile, he replied "I was a business man, i had like 5 cars, 7 bikes, 0 friends. I had no one to help me when i was in crisis. My dream was vanished fully and i started roaming aimlessly and I'm here now."

I began to think about myself back at home and how I lived my life. I began to wonder as to why I was stuck in this weird unknown place. What is it that I did wrong and I deserved this punishment of being alone. I realised how big of a spoilt brat I was. I thought about how I didn’t value what I had and was given. I began to think about everything. My mind was running a marathon race but with no direction. It was going crazy. I felt like I was going to explode.

Poof I woke up

I sat down for a while and analysed my dream. I thought about what I was doing in my life and if it was the right way to lead my life.

Dreams are known to take place during the Rapid Eye Movement period also known as REM period. This period varies from person to person causing them to either remember or forget their dreams which is why you may come across some who claim to not dream. Dreams are always confusing. They always give us mixed feelings. Usually after my dreams I don’t remember the whole story just like this one but there is always something I learn out of them. Dreams give us all kinds of mixed feelings. Sometimes they are true and sometimes unrealistic. Usually dreams have a deeper meaning so let us analyse a few dreams.

1)Being trapped means you might need a change or a fresh approach to your life. Look for another job or think about going on a small holiday.

2)Teeth falling out is all about your power and usually means you’re feeling subconsciously repressed or controlled

3)Food items is all about knowledge and feeding your brain. It could also be just about the food items themselves, depending on how important food is to you as a person.

4)Falling is a dream symbol that means you’re thinking about letting go of something you’ve been holding onto for a while now.

5)Finding an empty room in a dream can mean you’re searching for something that you just can’t seem to find. It could be a new area of your life you want to explore.

There are many other such types. In addition to this it is always a good idea to revisit your dream.

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Sriya Chatterjee

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